"It's FRIDAY!" he exclaimed. "Why would your guild need you on a Friday, you're not raiding."
"No," I replied. "But it's my alliance smashing day." Friday is PvP day in Frostwolves.
I told him I could stay till 9pm when more healers turned up. He said that was fine. I said I wasn't taking any loot either, just coming along to help.
So I jumped onto their teamspeak, and didn't speak. I don't normally talk straight away when I jump into someone else's chat, it can be uncomfortable sometimes when people hear a girl talking and start acting all stupid.
I realised after a while that the raiders were all guys. Well, all the ones talking were guys. They all sounded mature and decent, not like some other things I've been to (typically RBGs) where they are all smash talking and being generally unsavoury and unpleasant.
"Are there no girls in your guild?" I asked my friend.
"Yeah there are a few. Some of the raiders' girlfriends are in the guild."
"They don't raid?"
"Girls don't raid," he stated, matter-of-factly. He wasn't trying to be insulting, nor do I think he was trying to being sexist, I think he really thought that girls don't want to raid.
I've never actually mentioned my gender to him, so I know he wasn't having a dig at me, and he wasn't saying anything anti-female either. But the whole thing bemused me. Another one of those guilds that are full of guys?
It reminded me of a post I wrote last year "Bizarre behaviours and how to discourage them". Sev's workmate, Scruff, had also had some rather odd things about females, including trying to "protect" them by asking them not to speak, which is oddly chivalrous yet also insulting LOL. Because, life shouldn't be like that, that I shouldn't speak because it may affect how other people play or behave? And CTwin's guild had no raiding girls - which has since changed, thank goodness (bloody barbarians).
However, back to topic. I just quietly did my stuff and then I said I had to leave, as another healer had turned up. They asked me to stay and help heal, but I chose that moment to speak, and said "I have to leave anyway, Nk says girls don't raid." I thanked them for the fun and left.
Girls don't make up the majority of raiders, but girls do raid. We don't have many female raiders in our guild (used to be 30% in SoO, now we're down to 25% with 6 female raiders). I should stop saying girls, actually. Females may be a better word. After all, I'm a bit old to be called a girl now. Though, in reality, boys and girls tends to be synonymous to me with male and female anyway, even a 50 year old man I'd still refer to him as a boy if I was talking purely about gender (eg. this operating theatre is full of boys). To quote Salt N Pepa...
C'mon girls, let's go show the guys that we know
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Now push it
So, the REAL reason why I wrote this post was because I saw this awesome picture on twitter today done by Medusa the Dollmaker, in that art nouveau style and I wanted to stick it on my blog somewhere so I can look at it.