People talk about how horrible people are in LFR but before there was LFR those horrible people were in random battlegrounds. Battlegrounds can be full of self righteous selfish people - whether it is about getting the most killing blows, doing the most damage/healing, chasing down someone on the other team who killed them before in a retaliation... and they may ignore all the tactics of the BG for their own agenda. You get used to that.
Another thing that is particularly common is that the loudest complaining person will be someone who is the worst geared or doing the least damage. I see that a lot too. Usually they will be yelling about how terrible we all are, and it is SO tempting to reply with some retort, but instead try to reply as politely as possible that they should leave if they don't like the game. And, funnily enough, it's often a rogue or a hunter. I'm sure that's just a coincidence. Not saying they are problem players, but for some reason, 80% of the time it is one of those two classes.
So I thought I would try and queue as a DPS just to try it out - my damage is horrible but I need practice but though I queued as both damage and heals, I got a healer role so after I zoned into the battleground, I was switching back to heals spec and healer PvP gear. It was Temple of Kotmogu and I was the only healer at that time. DK, rogue, shaman and mage were some of the other classes there and I hadn't put symbiosis on because I was hoping I could find a hunter to symbiose in case I had to carry the damn ball.
"Hey druid," said one of the rogues. "Ever heard of symbiosis? I hear it's good."
I ignored him at first. I don't have to explain my reasons for not using symbiosis to anyone. He kept going. "Hey druid. You gonna learn to play? Do you know what symbiosis is?"
I got a little bit irritated. Ok, maybe a lot irritated. "It won't be for you," I replied. I should have not said anything. That was my mistake. I should have said I had just boosted this toon to 90. A little implausible for a druid in full 550 ilvl PvP gear but maybe it would have been an amusing thing to say. Probably better, I should just have ignored him. Yes, opening my mouth when grumpy is bad bad bad.
Another healer joined, a resto shaman and off we went. I ran to the only person who got an orb, a shadow priest and healed them and myself as I tried to get away from the hunters who were burning us down. One of the alliance orb carriers were killed and it was up close to me but I was really busy so I didn't pick it up, and another alliance grabbed it.
"Nice pick up fail druid," said the rogue. That was it, I thought to myself. Not healing that dickhead.
The game turned around later, and horde managed to hold 3 orbs, with me holding one, a monk with the other and the rogue with yet another. I was having fun running around one of the low rectangular boxes which gave nice line-of-sight issues from enemies, dodging a warrior and healing myself and the other rogue kindly dispatched the warrior and I kept him alive as I threw some heals on the monk but none on the rogue. He might have gotten a splash heal from wild growth but I wasn't going to directly heal him. He died without heals and he said "Druid, heard of healing?"
"I don't heal assholes," I replied. Ugh, why did I do that, I should not have said anything! But at the time, I was irritated as hell and I hoped he would just leave the battleground.
"Heard of winning? How about you do your job and heal people?" That sentence may have been censored by me somewhat but I had already decided not to answer anymore. I concentrated on my own job healing and we caught up from our 500 point gap to be almost 100 between us. I had by then used symbiosis on the DK but the alliance could smell victory and were rallying hard to keep us from catching them. The monk was yelling at people to get orbs. We were about to lose. The rogue yelled at me a few more times like when I couldn't get to an orb, or when I died with an orb, or when I let him die again for whatever reason - there was a shaman there, he could have healed him, I figured. I wasn't even paying attention to him by then.
"No thanks to the fail druid," said the rogue, as the last points ticked. "GG"
I did a smiley face into the BG chat. I wasn't going to say anything about his crappy damage for that fight. Can't do damage when you're dead from no heals.
When the game ended, I thought what a waste of time that was. I had forgotten I was honour capped so I didn't gain any honour from that BG. Also, no win so no bonus either and no ticks towards any achievements. I guess there were some honour kills. At least that was something.
Then, I actually started feeling terrible. Why was I feeling upset? I complained to someone that I was feeling upset about it, and they told me that it's just BGs, and that always happens, why would I feel bad? I thought maybe it was because I was being singled out and being personally picked on, rather than someone ranting at everyone in the BG.
Godmother wrote a post yesterday "You get what you give" and she said:
And I think that was what was making me feel sick inside. It wasn't because some idiot decided to personally pick on me - since when has that ever bothered me? It was because I put my personal vendetta ahead of the team and that may have caused the team to fail. Maybe I could have won that BG if I had healed that rogue. Then again we might still have lost. Where are all my grand moral stands on team play and unity now? How petty am I to just not heal someone because they're being a dick? Am I no better than those people who think they are too good for a group and cause a wipe just because I can? I felt bad thinking that I was no better than the tank in Godmother's group who got pissed off for being kicked and pulled the boss to wipe the raid.It really doesn't have to be about you all the time, or your needs, or the loot or achievements. Being selfless isn't hard and it is often its own reward, especially when you understand what can be achieved if you don't automatically always put yourself first.
I thought about whether I would do that again - not heal someone just because they were annoying the hell out of me. And the sad answer? Yes, I would do it again. Perhaps that makes me a bad person. But consider this - does healing someone who is being a dick make them more likely to continue to being a dick? If I don't heal them, will it change anything - will it make them stop being a dick? The answer is no - it doesn't matter what I do, they'll still be an asswipe. So why then should it make any difference if I heal them or not heal them when their behaviour doesn't change and healing them may actually benefit me by getting a win?
I think for me personally, I was hoping to make it less fun for THEM. If you don't get healed, you can'd do damage. If you don't do damage, you look gimp compared to everyone else. If I had healed him and he had done superb damage because he'd been alive, that would have just been more ammunition in his cannon fodder to lord it over everyone else. Crappy reasoning, I know. But it's food for thought for me, on whether I should suck it up so that I don't punish everyone else with my personal ego issues.