Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Self diagnosis: Raid exhaustion

XT says: "So tired.  I will rest for just a moment."
Don't get me wrong, I love raiding.  I love logging in to play with my friends so we can wipe some more on new bosses!  And of course, I like shiny loots too, and new boss kills, or even old boss kills with funny incidents occurring that make me cackle like a hyena (lucky I'm not pressing push to talk).  I love examining my heals to see how bad I was at keeping harmony up.  I like laughing with Bish about those silly DPSers who annoy me and see how long they last when I don't heal them.

But 4 days is a lot.  People wonder where I find time to do all those things in WoW - but I don't!  Wednesday, Thursday, Sunday and Monday are raid days, and Friday is my PvP day.  I can't get on WoW before the kids go to bed unless it's the weekend (and then I have guilt because I shouldn't be teaching them how to do my Darkmoon Faire Carnival dailies or making them run around looking for pets that I don't have rares of).  I haven't had time to run dungeons or do LFR to max justice points each week.  I hardly get to plant my vegies.  The only thing I try to do actively is my pet battles, because I like them, but even now I don't feel like doing my tamers anymore!  I do still stop to battle every pet I don't have a rare of though.


Dominance Offensive is still on my list of things to do before 5.2.  And max my last cooking - if I put more effort into it I would have been done by now.  And I would like to relax and fish more so I can get my Nat Pagle reputation up - I was happy to see that the fish also drop from pools and not from just outside pools so I can justify trying to do the rep whilst doing some useful fishing.

I am half wishing we went back to 2 raid groups again.  I liked having 3 days of raiding and other days to do my own thing.  I can hear people saying "Nobody is FORCING you to raid!" but how can I justify not raiding when everyone wants to go and we are short of healers?  There are only 2 regular healers turning up to raid, and with Bladewind (understandably) wanting to spend more time with his young baby, and Gutsy having jack of Pandaria, that doesn't leave many options to sit out.  I think if we went back to 2 raid groups I would choose the group that raided 2-3 days instead.  That would give me enough time to do all those other things in WoW that I would like to achieve!

Part of the other reason is my morning routine is a little different now, with making sure people eat their breakfasts and have lunch packed for school.  Last year it was easier - hubby was home on Tuesdays and kids went to a nanny on Wednesday/Thursday so if we were needing to be away early, they could eat breakfast there.  Now I have to ensure everyone is fed and toileted before daycare/school and bags are packed ... sounds just like any other parent with school aged kids, I suppose.  But I used to have an extra half hour in the morning when I got up, but now I don't have that time anymore (that was my planting time).  I used to see Ayelena, Saunder, sometimes Roshii and some of the Americans at that early hour of the morning - even Saund said he hadn't seen me early in the morning for a while.

Yes we look cute but we're not eating our breakfast either!
I guess, as I settle into this new routine, my WoW time will settle as well. But I have to break out of this bad habit of finding extra WoW time AFTER raiding.  Going to bed at those crazy hours surely can't be good for me in the long run (though I have been doing that for a while now).  However, being busted  by Slice at 3am doing rated BGs MIGHT be pushing the boundaries JUST a little...


17 comments:

  1. Oh Navi ... No one gas that perfect breakfast image in their lives .. And if I did I would ask whose children are you and get the hell out if my house!!?!

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  2. I can relate to the raid exhaustion. Last expansion I raided with two different guilds, for a total of 4 nights a week. The progress was nearly identical, so I might have spent one evening wiping on a specific boss.. only to join the other guild and repeat the same thing all over again the next night.

    These days I only raid with one guild, and only two nights a week. But I'm still weary. Somehow it won't quite wear off. Maybe it's the struggles to find people to the team.. maybe that we've struggled on a couple of bosses. In either case, I just know that I'm rather tired at the moment.

    I hope you can cut down on time for a bit. It's never fun feeling like you don't have time for the things you enjoy!

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    1. That's the hard part though - I do enjoy raiding STILL but I just feel like I need to balance what I enjoy more. Gosh, weary still with 2 raid nights? Are they long raid nights?

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    2. No, not really. I think it's just from me being tired in general, and that our guild has struggled a lot. So raid nights are a pain some nights, when people make stupid mistakes on bosses that should be easy. The tiredness is probably more me than the raids to be fair ;) Since the raids are only 3 hours and 4 hours each.

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  3. Speaking of Slice, that slacker wasn't at work today.

    Oh Navi, you do need to take a break. You cannot be everything for everyone. You need to speak up to management and let them know. Something will get done if people want to raid. It is not your responsibility to hold everything up yourself.

    Plus the more you keep on this course the quicker you will burn out and then where will we be?

    We will be Naviless.

    And that is just a world I don't want to live in.

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    1. This comment was so lovely Lyss... I think I read it a few times! I will tell our GM, and he's pretty cool about it. I think his solution is to recruit more healers, then I can rest.

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  4. While I would miss seeing you, you need your sleep! No rated BGs at 3:00am! Sleeping instead!

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    1. I hear that sleep thing is rather good, I should try more of it...

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  5. Raid/game exhaustion happens. It's okay if you need to take a break, so long as you inform your guild in a sane and sensible manner.

    And yes, I'm sure things will get better as you adjust to your new routine, just as they'll get better for me as I adjust to my new routine. (hug)

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    1. /hug how long did it take for you to adjust?

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    2. Heh, still adjusting. I'm not going to be getting very many valor points this week, either. :/

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  6. You need to do what is right for you, for your family, and for the other commitments you have. You need to be happy with that decision and not feel guilty about it. WoW has some great people, and some awesome times, but RL > WoW. Don't ever apologise for not being on, especially if you are spending time with or doing things for hte family. They need you, most certainly more than we do.

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    1. I am reminded of a post you wrote about raiding taking up too much of your time away from that other awful habit you enjoy (altitis). I will go read that again and feel good about not raiding so I can go fishing.

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  7. I know we're at the stage where we can just /hug when no other words are shared so there's mine. Thanks for all mine lately.

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    1. What are friends for if not an endless supply of free hugs? :)

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  8. I went through the same thing and it took me forever to find my footing again. However, in found true friends in the process and I'm now having more fun than ever even if the thrills of the raids are not there anymore.

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